Wife Sharing Part V. The Big Day

Part V
The Big Day
 

Preparations

On the day of the event, you may want to get some wine, beer or favorite drink.  A stereo with CD's with selections that gets everyone in the mood is recommended and can mask noise heard though walls and doors in a hotel.  ;-)  Don't forget some water based lubricant and extra condoms.  If she's planning on an evening with two men, it may be non stop marathon sex and staying lubricated for several hours is not easy.   A camera or a video cam is a great idea if you want to capture the event.  This way you can both relive the memories.

 

Importance Of Making Her New partner Comfortable

I think this is often overlooked and is the cause for some problems with first time three-ways in particular.  Most men have never had sex with another man present.  This makes them feel uneasy.  It can cause temporary impotence.  Also, if you've laid down half a dozen pre-sex ground rules - "don't do this and don't do that",  he may be spooked.  So what can you do? First time sex in a three-way is usually awkward at first.  This can me minimized if you take things slowly and get to know one another with e-mail.  Get comfortable as a threesome before removing your cloths with conversation.  Chat over a beer.  Flirt with email.  Slow dance.  Tease one another.  This will pay off in the end. The relationship between the two men will probably be the most awkward.  The husband/boyfriend should find a way to indicate with his woman's new partner when it is OK to proceed and when it is not.  Having a friendly one-on-one conversation is recommended.  Email communications work well for this.

 

How Do We Begin?

You may want to start with light conversation and a cocktail in the hotel lobby.  On a queue from her, you can all venture to the hotel room.  Both men could start by giving her a body massage fully clothed.  A foot massage is a great place to start and is an excellent icebreaker.  Gradually, the husband/boyfriend can remove articles of clothing.  Then let nature take its course.  I don't believe you can proceed too slowly, but it's easy for miscommunication and awkward moments if you move too fast.  As a rule, I think it is best when the woman sets the pace.

 

Tips For The Husband/Boyfriend

It is completely up to the couple what the husband/boyfriend does.  He can either join in, take turns or passively watch and snap a few pictures.   And here's a tip:  if you decide to photograph, use a flash as hotel lighting does not make for good photos.  :-) Assuming you develop a relationship over time with her new partner and you both trust him, I would suggest the husband/boyfriend leave the room for 20 minutes.  She and her new sex partner may be reluctant to show their wild side for different reasons.  He may feel uncomfortable with the other man in the room.  She may feel guilty exhibiting too much pleasure.  While alone, they may reach a new level of passion.  When you return, they may be more willing to continue in this manner. Another twist it to stop after a period of time and ask the new lover to leave for a period of say an hour.  Then have him phone the room and come back later.  It gives you both some time to talk and be passionate in private.  When he returns, she can resume with him where she left off knowing her husband/boyfriend is both excited and supportive.

 

How Does It End?

Long before your first meeting, indicate in your email that if either of you wants it to end, it must end immediately, no questions asked.  He should agree completely. When you make final hotel arrangements with the new partner, tell him it will end within 2 hours of the time you get to the room.  You can always change your mind and continue for as long as you're both comfortable with it.
The couple should have a non-verbal queue, that they can use in the hotel room indicating they want a time out or the whole thing to end.