Fetish, Fantasy, or Fact of Lifestyle?

Fetish, Fantasy, or Fact of Lifestyle? As we research the concept of Hotwifing, we run into all kinds of websites, blogs, articles and forums. It appears that Hotwifing can take on a bunch of different meanings, depending upon who you ask or reference.
We'll take a look at how Hotwifing is viewed in three different ways. Each one not really wrong within itself, however, our concern is a realistic approach to the subject.

Fetish?

It isn't necessarily wrong to look at Hotwifing from the standpoint of "it being a fetish", however, when we do this... hotwives, their husbands, and their lovers, tend to be viewed as though they are virtual deviants of "normal" society... practicing some type of illicit, underground behavior. Some may like that outlook, but it does little for those who are driven to share their relationship for more mainstream reasons.
It is not surprising that some fetish communities would include wife sharing as a part of their focus, as it is a concept that is not practiced in the open by many people. Even most Hotwifing couples that consider themselves more mainstream, remain discreet in their wife sharing practices.
If you choose to look at Hotwifing simply as a fetish, you are not wrong; however, you will be missing out on the reality of how common a thought Hotwifing is with many couples.

Fantasy?

Is Hotwife Sharing simply a fantasy that we can only imagine, and never achieve in reality?
Hotwifing is truly a fantastic thought for those who desire it, so yes it is a fantasy!... however many don't pursue their fantasies, especially when they believe they are unattainable. It is unfortunate that there are a lot fewer organizations portraying Hotwifing in a realistic way, than the many who display it as mostly fantasy. This has skewed the information field considerably.
There is nothing wrong with fantasy in any walk of life! People often fantasize about being rock stars, movie stars, baseball players, models, or dancers. Some fantasies can be achieved with dedication, and others are more dreams that are long-shots at best.
Hotwifing has unfortunately, for the most part been portrayed as a fantasy that is only pursued by the most daring of swingers... which is why it is a subject that is much more difficult for the average couple to approach.

Fact of Lifestyle?

When we use the term "Lifestyle", we are not referring necessarily to a "Hotwifing Lifestyle", but rather to Hotwifing being a subcategory within a "Committed Relationship Lifestyle"... or "Married Lifestyle".
For many couples, Hotwifing is something that one or both have desired throughout their entire relationship. Others think about it later in their lives together. While Hotwifing isn't for everyone, it is something that can realistically be done by everyone, if they so desire.
We would be lying to say that Hotwifing is a normal everyday occurrence in most relationships, however, it is one of the biggest fantasies that many men have, as well as the many committed women that enjoy variety and surprise in their love lives.

Conclusion!

Bridging the gaps between fetish, fantasy, and Hotwifing being a real possible addition to a relationship, is where our focus should be. There's nothing wrong with having fetishes, as many do. Fantasies can be normal and healthy as well. However, the worst thing would be limiting the real possibility of our subject matter to being strictly a fetish or a fantasy... when there is practicing proof that Hotwifing works positively in many relationships.
Hotwifing isn't for everyone, but it can be approached in an intellectual and realistic way by those who choose.
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