Pretend your husband fell alseep early, or passed out from drinking, and all you wanted to do all night was suck this guys dick and let him fuck you anyway he wants to! Wisper in his ear not to wake your husband he would kill us both. Kiss him, make love to him, make sure its very dark so you cant see his face this will make it feel more real for both of you! Keep wispering hot dirty things in his ear while remembering not to wake your husband up. When its all done swallow this strangers load and talk dirty about it!
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Friday, January 25, 2013
Top 10 Sex Tricks That Drive Men Wild
Sure, men are predictable—but then again they may still surprise
you. Cosmo gives you a rundown of the hottest moves that are sure to
keep your man fired up. And, yes, this is according to men themselves.
We also asked some feisty women to react to the revelations. So, whether
it’s a much-loved golden oldie or an unexpected re-entry, you’ll find
out all the bedroom tricks that never fail to get him all hot and
bothered. There are also sizzling hot remixes that will make him even
more enthusiastic under the covers.
10. Look Behind You
There’s always been something pornographic about doggy-style sex. This, of course, probably explains why men love it so much. Your guy enjoys it because he can hold your waist (the sexiest part of a woman’s body) and take a long lingering look at your butt. For David, 28, a stockbroker, the only thing hotter than actually having sex from behind was the moment his girlfriend demanded it. “She’d suddenly say, ‘Take me from behind!’ That alone really drove me crazy,” he says.
Another variation that rates highly on men’s arousal meter is when he lies on his back and you sit on top, facing away from him. When fully erect, his penis will be pointing at a 45-degree angle, so don’t lean too far forward or you might risk an embarrassing trip to the emergency room.
“There’s something so wild about being taken from behind.”
- Marla, 29, lawyer
9. Dirty Dancing
“My wife and I have been married for a little over a year,” says Mike, 30, a veterinarian, “and after the initial excitement, I have to admit that things started getting a bit boring in the bedroom. But just last month, out of the blue, she made me sit in the middle of the room while she turned on the CD player and slowly did a striptease. Every time I tried to grab her, she pushed my hand away and said, ‘No touching!’ After a few minutes of watching her gyrate, I thought I was going to explode. Come to think of it, I don’t even remember the song that was playing.”
All men are turned on by visual stimulation, so there’s nothing that your guy loves more than watching you do a striptease in front of him. If you want to give him a full lap dance, make sure you’ve practiced your moves in advance to avoid any booboos.
“I want to try this out on my hubby. I just hope he doesn’t laugh at me.”
- Christine, 25, medical representative
8. The “Clasp”
A hot new entry at number eight is this handy method of penile stimulation—the vaginal squeeze or “clasp.”
“Just as I’m about to come,” explains Harry, 31, a professor, “my girlfriend does this thing where she squeezes her vaginal muscles. It’s an amazing sensation. It feels like a hand is gripping me.” Though most men may not know the specific mechanics behind this move, a good number of women may recognize the “clasping” thing as a variation of the Kegel exercises. The said exercises involve the clenching and unclenching of the pubococcygeus muscle that surrounds the opening of the vagina. When applied at the appropriate moment, the “clasp” can intensify your man’s orgasm. Also known as “the handshake,” this is one move that will make him very pleased to meet you.
“This move’s easy enough to do and it’s a big plus that it makes my BF even hornier in bed.”
- Susan, 31, nurse
7. Mirror Image
All men—yes, even the ones with love handles and hairy backs—seem to relish the idea of watching themselves having sex. As Rob, 28, an advertising executive, reveals: “I just love being able to see everything going on and, most of all, being able to see my girlfriend’s face. I like having her face the mirror while I’m behind her.”
Of course, once they’re bored with mirrors, some men might whip out their video cameras and try to film their heated encounters with women. But then again, you have to be very careful about doing such a thing. If you’re not, somebody could get hold of the X-rated video and the next thing you know, you’re starring in your very own YouTube scandal.
“Mirrors are fine with me. It’s just much too dangerous to capture your most intimate moment on video.”
- Laura, 32, doctor
6. Do It Yourself
Rather than get offended when chicks take matters into their own hands, men get hot watching women pleasure themselves. It appeals to their voyeuristic side. Many—if not all—of them find it unbelievably sexy. “I once walked in on my girlfriend masturbating when she thought I was out of the apartment,” says Greg, 32, a doctor. “I’ve never been so turned on in my life.”
“I’d only let a man see me pleasuring myself once I’m super sure that I can trust him.”
- Michelle, 22, teacher
5. Down Under
For a lot of men, a blow job is the Rolls-Royce of sexual moves. You should never worry that you’re doing something wrong if he prefers it to be a precursor to sex—rather than the end-all and be-all of the encounter. In fact, some men admit that they found it hard to come through oral alone. Another useful piece of advice is this: Blow jobs are like chocolate; your guy may want a daily helping but they’re best enjoyed as a rare treat.
Jake, 31, an engineer, recalls the best blow job he ever got: “I went out with this girl who did this incredible move where she used both her hand and her mouth at the same time. I’m still not sure what was happening—all I know is that it felt amazing.”
“I like giving my guy oral sex because it makes me feel great that I can arouse him that much.”
- Pam, 27, nutritionist
4. The Magic Number
A surprise re-entry from this neglected classic, the 69. Guys love the idea of being able to give you oral pleasure while simultaneously returning the favor. However, unless you happen to be exactly the right height, doing it with one of you lying on top of the other can end up being a bit of a mouthful. So, try it lying side by side instead. That way, you can come up for air occasionally.
“What’s not to like?” asks Ben, 29, an architect. “Although it can sometimes be hard to concentrate on your own enjoyment when you’re busy giving someone else pleasure—or vice versa. Sooner or later, one of you has to lie back and just relax. I love it when my girlfriend suddenly stops giving me oral and just lies there moaning. For me, it’s like, ‘Yes, I’m doing something right!’”
“I enjoy this position occasionally. You know, it can be a bit challenging to multitask in bed.”
- Tina, 23, executive assistant
3. Power Undressing
Men don’t just want to get you naked as quickly as possible—they want to get you semi-naked as quickly as possible. Men love looking at women’s lingerie; it’s as simple as that. Most men would go crazy at the mere sight of black lace panties—especially if the object of their affection is wearing them. And remember, sometimes sexiness isn’t about what you take off but what you leave on.
“One of the things my wife does in bed that makes me really hot,” says Steve, 29, a physical therapist, “is when she keeps her bra on and, rather than taking off her panties, just pulls them to one side.”
“Sexy lingerie should be part of every woman’s wardrobe. It’s a very smart investment to make in the name of seduction.”
- Gina, 25, production assistant
2. Talk The Talk
Just missing out the top spot, it’s that old favorite—talking dirty. You don’t have to come up with anything too dirty to turn him on. Just tell him that you feel hot. Say what feels good and what you want him to do to you. Throw in a swear word if the mood takes you. Never be embarrassed about being loud in bed. Men are excited by a full-volume orgasm.
“Talking dirty adds to the naughtiness of the encounter. ”
- Connie, 27, stylist
1. Girls On Top
A surprise new entry at No. 1 reveals that a whole lot of men like it when women push them onto bed, straddle them, and “ride them hard.” Having you on top means that they get a full view of you in all your glory. For Matt, 27, a graphic artist, the best encounter he’s ever had was with his girlfriend on top. “She was kneeling on top of me with her legs on either side,” he recalls. “Then, I sat up and she moved her legs so she was sitting on me, rather than kneeling. The best thing was that we kept eye contact the whole time.”
“Now, this turn-on is truly beneficial to both parties! Women should really enjoy being on top more.”
- Sheryl, 33, accountant
10. Look Behind You
There’s always been something pornographic about doggy-style sex. This, of course, probably explains why men love it so much. Your guy enjoys it because he can hold your waist (the sexiest part of a woman’s body) and take a long lingering look at your butt. For David, 28, a stockbroker, the only thing hotter than actually having sex from behind was the moment his girlfriend demanded it. “She’d suddenly say, ‘Take me from behind!’ That alone really drove me crazy,” he says.
Another variation that rates highly on men’s arousal meter is when he lies on his back and you sit on top, facing away from him. When fully erect, his penis will be pointing at a 45-degree angle, so don’t lean too far forward or you might risk an embarrassing trip to the emergency room.
“There’s something so wild about being taken from behind.”
- Marla, 29, lawyer
9. Dirty Dancing
“My wife and I have been married for a little over a year,” says Mike, 30, a veterinarian, “and after the initial excitement, I have to admit that things started getting a bit boring in the bedroom. But just last month, out of the blue, she made me sit in the middle of the room while she turned on the CD player and slowly did a striptease. Every time I tried to grab her, she pushed my hand away and said, ‘No touching!’ After a few minutes of watching her gyrate, I thought I was going to explode. Come to think of it, I don’t even remember the song that was playing.”
All men are turned on by visual stimulation, so there’s nothing that your guy loves more than watching you do a striptease in front of him. If you want to give him a full lap dance, make sure you’ve practiced your moves in advance to avoid any booboos.
“I want to try this out on my hubby. I just hope he doesn’t laugh at me.”
- Christine, 25, medical representative
8. The “Clasp”
A hot new entry at number eight is this handy method of penile stimulation—the vaginal squeeze or “clasp.”
“Just as I’m about to come,” explains Harry, 31, a professor, “my girlfriend does this thing where she squeezes her vaginal muscles. It’s an amazing sensation. It feels like a hand is gripping me.” Though most men may not know the specific mechanics behind this move, a good number of women may recognize the “clasping” thing as a variation of the Kegel exercises. The said exercises involve the clenching and unclenching of the pubococcygeus muscle that surrounds the opening of the vagina. When applied at the appropriate moment, the “clasp” can intensify your man’s orgasm. Also known as “the handshake,” this is one move that will make him very pleased to meet you.
“This move’s easy enough to do and it’s a big plus that it makes my BF even hornier in bed.”
- Susan, 31, nurse
7. Mirror Image
All men—yes, even the ones with love handles and hairy backs—seem to relish the idea of watching themselves having sex. As Rob, 28, an advertising executive, reveals: “I just love being able to see everything going on and, most of all, being able to see my girlfriend’s face. I like having her face the mirror while I’m behind her.”
Of course, once they’re bored with mirrors, some men might whip out their video cameras and try to film their heated encounters with women. But then again, you have to be very careful about doing such a thing. If you’re not, somebody could get hold of the X-rated video and the next thing you know, you’re starring in your very own YouTube scandal.
“Mirrors are fine with me. It’s just much too dangerous to capture your most intimate moment on video.”
- Laura, 32, doctor
6. Do It Yourself
Rather than get offended when chicks take matters into their own hands, men get hot watching women pleasure themselves. It appeals to their voyeuristic side. Many—if not all—of them find it unbelievably sexy. “I once walked in on my girlfriend masturbating when she thought I was out of the apartment,” says Greg, 32, a doctor. “I’ve never been so turned on in my life.”
“I’d only let a man see me pleasuring myself once I’m super sure that I can trust him.”
- Michelle, 22, teacher
5. Down Under
For a lot of men, a blow job is the Rolls-Royce of sexual moves. You should never worry that you’re doing something wrong if he prefers it to be a precursor to sex—rather than the end-all and be-all of the encounter. In fact, some men admit that they found it hard to come through oral alone. Another useful piece of advice is this: Blow jobs are like chocolate; your guy may want a daily helping but they’re best enjoyed as a rare treat.
Jake, 31, an engineer, recalls the best blow job he ever got: “I went out with this girl who did this incredible move where she used both her hand and her mouth at the same time. I’m still not sure what was happening—all I know is that it felt amazing.”
“I like giving my guy oral sex because it makes me feel great that I can arouse him that much.”
- Pam, 27, nutritionist
4. The Magic Number
A surprise re-entry from this neglected classic, the 69. Guys love the idea of being able to give you oral pleasure while simultaneously returning the favor. However, unless you happen to be exactly the right height, doing it with one of you lying on top of the other can end up being a bit of a mouthful. So, try it lying side by side instead. That way, you can come up for air occasionally.
“What’s not to like?” asks Ben, 29, an architect. “Although it can sometimes be hard to concentrate on your own enjoyment when you’re busy giving someone else pleasure—or vice versa. Sooner or later, one of you has to lie back and just relax. I love it when my girlfriend suddenly stops giving me oral and just lies there moaning. For me, it’s like, ‘Yes, I’m doing something right!’”
“I enjoy this position occasionally. You know, it can be a bit challenging to multitask in bed.”
- Tina, 23, executive assistant
3. Power Undressing
Men don’t just want to get you naked as quickly as possible—they want to get you semi-naked as quickly as possible. Men love looking at women’s lingerie; it’s as simple as that. Most men would go crazy at the mere sight of black lace panties—especially if the object of their affection is wearing them. And remember, sometimes sexiness isn’t about what you take off but what you leave on.
“One of the things my wife does in bed that makes me really hot,” says Steve, 29, a physical therapist, “is when she keeps her bra on and, rather than taking off her panties, just pulls them to one side.”
“Sexy lingerie should be part of every woman’s wardrobe. It’s a very smart investment to make in the name of seduction.”
- Gina, 25, production assistant
2. Talk The Talk
Just missing out the top spot, it’s that old favorite—talking dirty. You don’t have to come up with anything too dirty to turn him on. Just tell him that you feel hot. Say what feels good and what you want him to do to you. Throw in a swear word if the mood takes you. Never be embarrassed about being loud in bed. Men are excited by a full-volume orgasm.
“Talking dirty adds to the naughtiness of the encounter. ”
- Connie, 27, stylist
1. Girls On Top
A surprise new entry at No. 1 reveals that a whole lot of men like it when women push them onto bed, straddle them, and “ride them hard.” Having you on top means that they get a full view of you in all your glory. For Matt, 27, a graphic artist, the best encounter he’s ever had was with his girlfriend on top. “She was kneeling on top of me with her legs on either side,” he recalls. “Then, I sat up and she moved her legs so she was sitting on me, rather than kneeling. The best thing was that we kept eye contact the whole time.”
“Now, this turn-on is truly beneficial to both parties! Women should really enjoy being on top more.”
- Sheryl, 33, accountant
Bring out your inner wild child during sex
Believe it or not, the key to being a great bedmate and enjoying yourself in the sack isn't all about having technical sex skills. What's essential is being able to let go. You need to tune out the world and focus your entire body and mind on the erotic experience. We'll show you how to throw yourself full-throttle into the action.
Be in the moment
It's hard to be unbridled in bed when you're worried about jiggly thighs, squooshy sex noises, and whether your man is enjoying himself. To be fully present in the encounter, you have to get into a no-stress, thought-free zone by minimising any mood-killing distractions. Turn down the lights so you're not as body-conscious, unplug the phone to avoid interruption, and pop in soft music that will inspire your sexual side.
Then, get in the right mind-set by focussing solely on all the sensations. Think about how he feels inside you, visualise him going in and out and rubbing against you. Not only will it help you get into a rhythm with your man, but it'll also make the sex more of a physical, tactile experience rather than a psychological one.
http://wonderwoman.intoday.in/story1/be-in-the-moment/1/88184.html
Be in the moment
It's hard to be unbridled in bed when you're worried about jiggly thighs, squooshy sex noises, and whether your man is enjoying himself. To be fully present in the encounter, you have to get into a no-stress, thought-free zone by minimising any mood-killing distractions. Turn down the lights so you're not as body-conscious, unplug the phone to avoid interruption, and pop in soft music that will inspire your sexual side.
Then, get in the right mind-set by focussing solely on all the sensations. Think about how he feels inside you, visualise him going in and out and rubbing against you. Not only will it help you get into a rhythm with your man, but it'll also make the sex more of a physical, tactile experience rather than a psychological one.
http://wonderwoman.intoday.in/story1/be-in-the-moment/1/88184.html
8 Tips for Being a Bad Girl in Bed…
Recently, there has been a lot of media coverage of the new ‘Bad Girls,’ and how they are driving men wild in bed. The real story? These Bad Girls are just like you, and have been driving men wild for years, with no plans to stop now. Men love women who can take control, and let their emotions and sexiness guide them. So if you want to drive him wild, steal these 8 tips for being a bad girl in bed…
1. Be The Boss
Seduce him. Don’t wait for the perfect moment, or for him to make the first move, simply jump on him. It only takes men 30 seconds to get aroused, and this will boost your confidence and make you feel sexy, and have his complete attention! If you are shy, don’t think about it or plan it, and do it randomly when you are close to him. If you’re feeling a bit braver, try getting out the handcuffs…
2. Talk Dirty
Try spicing up your sex life by randomly talking dirty to him. He’ll love the spontaneity and it’s sure to turn him on. Start with some moans and sighs (although you probably shouldn’t have to fake those…) and then add some dirty dialogue… tell him what feels good, and what you’d like him to do next. Once you’ve got started, it’ll come naturally, and he’s sure to love it.
3. Dress Up
If you know his fantasies, this is a great way to involve them in your sex life. Explore some sex shops on online boutiques and find a sexy dress up outfit that you like. Then, take a shower, and spend some time moisturizing and pampering yourself so that you look and feel amazing. If you don’t feel like investing in an outfit, use items you already have, such as one of his shirts tied around the waist and a short skirt with white underwear for a school girl look.
4. Gentle Roughness
Bring out his caveman side by being gently rough with him. Scratch his chest lightly, or gently bite his shoulder… remember that you aren’t meaning to cause pain or discomfort, simply to show him how much you want him, and awaken the primal, caveman part of him. A recent men’s study showed that men wish women would be more physical in bed, even if it hurt them!
5. Keep your heels on
Next time you seduce him, keep your heels on. You might need to adjust positions to make sure he doesn’t get hurt, but with that extra height, you’ll have many more available to try anyway, and he’ll be driven mad at the sight of your long legs. It’ll remind him of quick, secret sex, and really turn him on.
6. Let Him Have Control
Instruct your man to take control, and leave the planning to him. If you want some influence, write or buy some short stories about sexy men in control, and women being treated the way you’d love to be. Being dominated is a really popular fantasy, but it tends to vary a lot, so let him know if you’d love to be wined, dined and led to bed, or if whips and chains is more your style, and then leave the planning to him,
7. Watch Yourself
Move a large mirror into your bedroom, close to your bed, and lie on the bed. Check you can see yourself, and then seduce your other half. He won’t notice until you are having sex, and watching it will be like starring in your own secret porn, but without any evidence to destroy. This is a great tip which is often recommended by sex therapists, so give it a try!
8. Strip Tease
Give your man his very own strip tease. Choose a song that you love, and take your clothes off slowly, without exposing yourself too fast, and remember not to let him touch! If you are far too shy for this, consider making it a game, such as playing strip poker. The loser has a sexy challenge, of course…
These tricks are a great way to boost your sex life, and remind your other half how sexy and redblooded you really are, as well as boosting your confidence. Once you start to think like a sex goddess, you’ll start to feel like one too, and soon you’ll be sexy instinctively! Have you got a tip for bad-girl sex? Please let me know!
http://allwomenstalk.com/8-tips-for-being-a-bad-girl-in-bed/
1. Be The Boss
Seduce him. Don’t wait for the perfect moment, or for him to make the first move, simply jump on him. It only takes men 30 seconds to get aroused, and this will boost your confidence and make you feel sexy, and have his complete attention! If you are shy, don’t think about it or plan it, and do it randomly when you are close to him. If you’re feeling a bit braver, try getting out the handcuffs…
2. Talk Dirty
Try spicing up your sex life by randomly talking dirty to him. He’ll love the spontaneity and it’s sure to turn him on. Start with some moans and sighs (although you probably shouldn’t have to fake those…) and then add some dirty dialogue… tell him what feels good, and what you’d like him to do next. Once you’ve got started, it’ll come naturally, and he’s sure to love it.
3. Dress Up
If you know his fantasies, this is a great way to involve them in your sex life. Explore some sex shops on online boutiques and find a sexy dress up outfit that you like. Then, take a shower, and spend some time moisturizing and pampering yourself so that you look and feel amazing. If you don’t feel like investing in an outfit, use items you already have, such as one of his shirts tied around the waist and a short skirt with white underwear for a school girl look.
4. Gentle Roughness
Bring out his caveman side by being gently rough with him. Scratch his chest lightly, or gently bite his shoulder… remember that you aren’t meaning to cause pain or discomfort, simply to show him how much you want him, and awaken the primal, caveman part of him. A recent men’s study showed that men wish women would be more physical in bed, even if it hurt them!
5. Keep your heels on
Next time you seduce him, keep your heels on. You might need to adjust positions to make sure he doesn’t get hurt, but with that extra height, you’ll have many more available to try anyway, and he’ll be driven mad at the sight of your long legs. It’ll remind him of quick, secret sex, and really turn him on.
6. Let Him Have Control
Instruct your man to take control, and leave the planning to him. If you want some influence, write or buy some short stories about sexy men in control, and women being treated the way you’d love to be. Being dominated is a really popular fantasy, but it tends to vary a lot, so let him know if you’d love to be wined, dined and led to bed, or if whips and chains is more your style, and then leave the planning to him,
7. Watch Yourself
Move a large mirror into your bedroom, close to your bed, and lie on the bed. Check you can see yourself, and then seduce your other half. He won’t notice until you are having sex, and watching it will be like starring in your own secret porn, but without any evidence to destroy. This is a great tip which is often recommended by sex therapists, so give it a try!
8. Strip Tease
Give your man his very own strip tease. Choose a song that you love, and take your clothes off slowly, without exposing yourself too fast, and remember not to let him touch! If you are far too shy for this, consider making it a game, such as playing strip poker. The loser has a sexy challenge, of course…
These tricks are a great way to boost your sex life, and remind your other half how sexy and redblooded you really are, as well as boosting your confidence. Once you start to think like a sex goddess, you’ll start to feel like one too, and soon you’ll be sexy instinctively! Have you got a tip for bad-girl sex? Please let me know!
http://allwomenstalk.com/8-tips-for-being-a-bad-girl-in-bed/
Pretend to be strangers for great sex
As you get familiar with each other's bodies, the sex can get slightly monotonous and in some cases the sizzle is completely lost. Here's what you can do to make things sizzle in the bedroom.
During the initial stages of a relationship, when the two parties involved are just about getting to discover each other, it is usually not such a problem when it comes to having an exciting time in the bedroom.
But, as you get familiar with each other's bodies, the sex can get slightly monotonous and in some cases the sizzle is completely lost. However, this does not mean it's the end of your sex life or that you can't reignite the passion.
Read on for tips on how you can add some serious spice to your love life:
Just met
Pretend you and your partner have just met each other. Put yourself in a stranger's shoes and view your partner from a new perspective. This will help you realise that he or she is still very appealing. If he or she is still getting the look from a complete stranger, it means they still have the spark.
On your part you need to find it again. In fact, let him or her in on the role playing as well. The two of you should play a little game whereby you pretend to be strangers and it's all you need to get that added excitement.
Tease please
Nothing turns on a man or woman more than teasing them. This does not mean you get snide, it means you get playfully flirtatious. For example, you could sneak in little kisses or flirt with your partner while he or she is leaving for the office or do it in public where they know you're flirting with them, but can't do anything about it.
The advantage of this is, they know what you have in mind and because you were teasing him or her about it, once you are alone with them, they'll work the magic.
The mood
If you're in the mood to make love, do it. What happens often is that even though people might crave being with their partner , they avoid doing so because they might be busy or they feel inhibited. But the truth is, if you feel like it, go get it!
Surprise your partner one day and steal him or her away from their duties for an hour or so. In fact, they might enjoy it so much that they would want a repeat performance once they get home.
Use technology
The internet and today's fast paced world has helped people in every aspect of their life. So use it to spice up your sex life as well. You can send him or her explicit text messages or emails. However, keep it graceful; there is a thin line between sexy and vulgar and you need to be sexy not the latter.
The email or message will be playing on your partner's mind the entire day and by the time they see you, it will be very hard for him or her to keep their hands off you.
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Forget real life
If both you and your partner are always too busy for each other because of your work, take a break. Yes, work is a priority but you need to balance things in life. Take a weekend off and go to a place where the two of you can forget all about real life and just focus on reigniting your bedroom passion.
Once the weekend is over you can return to your responsibilities, but you probably won't mind so much because of the fabulous weekend you had.
Surprises
If you have never done anything naughty with your partner, start now. Surprise him or her with a special dance (if you do know how to shake those hips), or in the case of women go buy some seriously suggestive lingerie. Your partner will not be able to resist.
Surrender
One sure way to have a memorable sexual experience is to let go of all inhibitions. Tell your partner you are at their mercy and allow him or her to do whatever they would like to you (as long as nobody is getting hurt).
It will not only help you in the bedroom but once all inhibitions are gone and dealt with, even your relationship will improve.
During the initial stages of a relationship, when the two parties involved are just about getting to discover each other, it is usually not such a problem when it comes to having an exciting time in the bedroom.
But, as you get familiar with each other's bodies, the sex can get slightly monotonous and in some cases the sizzle is completely lost. However, this does not mean it's the end of your sex life or that you can't reignite the passion.
Read on for tips on how you can add some serious spice to your love life:
Just met
Pretend you and your partner have just met each other. Put yourself in a stranger's shoes and view your partner from a new perspective. This will help you realise that he or she is still very appealing. If he or she is still getting the look from a complete stranger, it means they still have the spark.
On your part you need to find it again. In fact, let him or her in on the role playing as well. The two of you should play a little game whereby you pretend to be strangers and it's all you need to get that added excitement.
Tease please
Nothing turns on a man or woman more than teasing them. This does not mean you get snide, it means you get playfully flirtatious. For example, you could sneak in little kisses or flirt with your partner while he or she is leaving for the office or do it in public where they know you're flirting with them, but can't do anything about it.
The advantage of this is, they know what you have in mind and because you were teasing him or her about it, once you are alone with them, they'll work the magic.
The mood
If you're in the mood to make love, do it. What happens often is that even though people might crave being with their partner , they avoid doing so because they might be busy or they feel inhibited. But the truth is, if you feel like it, go get it!
Surprise your partner one day and steal him or her away from their duties for an hour or so. In fact, they might enjoy it so much that they would want a repeat performance once they get home.
Use technology
The internet and today's fast paced world has helped people in every aspect of their life. So use it to spice up your sex life as well. You can send him or her explicit text messages or emails. However, keep it graceful; there is a thin line between sexy and vulgar and you need to be sexy not the latter.
The email or message will be playing on your partner's mind the entire day and by the time they see you, it will be very hard for him or her to keep their hands off you.
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Forget real life
If both you and your partner are always too busy for each other because of your work, take a break. Yes, work is a priority but you need to balance things in life. Take a weekend off and go to a place where the two of you can forget all about real life and just focus on reigniting your bedroom passion.
Once the weekend is over you can return to your responsibilities, but you probably won't mind so much because of the fabulous weekend you had.
Surprises
If you have never done anything naughty with your partner, start now. Surprise him or her with a special dance (if you do know how to shake those hips), or in the case of women go buy some seriously suggestive lingerie. Your partner will not be able to resist.
Surrender
One sure way to have a memorable sexual experience is to let go of all inhibitions. Tell your partner you are at their mercy and allow him or her to do whatever they would like to you (as long as nobody is getting hurt).
It will not only help you in the bedroom but once all inhibitions are gone and dealt with, even your relationship will improve.
The World of Imagination
Some people fantasize about their
partner having sex with another person, and some people fantasize about
their partner cheating on them.
The World of Imagination
Men and women fantasize about diverse situations and individuals. Some people, like you, fantasize about their partner having sex with another person.Such sexual fantasies may involve threesomes or larger numbers of people involved in group sex or orgies. Other times people fantasize about their partner having sex with one other person – either with them watching or in private, imagining that their partner is cheating on them. Sometimes people even find it particularly arousing to fantasize about walking in on their partner having sex with another person.
Fantasies like these do not necessarily make you abnormal or disloyal to your wife. People have different ideas about what is wrong or not for themselves or for their relationship. Many people also often find that their fantasies may change throughout the course of their relationships or their lives. Just because you have these fantasies now does not mean that you always will.
I Can’t Fight This Feeling Anymore
It’s also the case that when people try very hard to stop thinking about something, the thought or fantasy can become even more prominent, or become difficult to stop thinking about. You might consider how you can give yourself permission to experience, or even enjoy, your fantasy.Cuckoldry
Fantasies like you described – in which a man fantasizes about his wife cheating with another man – may be called “cuckoldry” fantasies or “hotwife” fantasies. Though they have likely been around for many generations, they are becoming more openly discussed in recent years.Thoughts Become Reality
Whether or not you tell your wife about your fantasy is up to you, though it’s not unusual for people to keep some of their sexual thoughts or fantasies to themselves.However, some couples enjoy sharing fantasies with each other. Just because two people enjoy or feel aroused by sharing fantasies or role-playing does not mean that they want to engage in the fantasy in real life. If your wife is open to hearing about your fantasy, you may be able to role play by talking during sex or by her using a sex toy, such as a dildo, as if she were having sex with another man.
10 erotic role playing ideas
The repairman
This works equally well with the plumber, electrician, etc. You choose! Your partner, a jack of all trades, rings the bell. You greet this manly figure in your new satin nightdress and let him in. You flirt a bit while he rummages through his toolbox. Ideally, draw this part out for a while. Then, when your repairman actually starts to 'repair' something, you lean over him, brushing past him with the narrowest of margins... an essential step for increasing levels of arousal.
Why's it so hot?
The surprise, unexpected encounter. It's an "I like you, you like me, let's get on with it" kind of situation. Often, this experience turns out to be much more exciting in role playing situations than in real life!
The hitch hiker
You could try this out for real if you have a car and know of a calm, isolated place where your partner can pull over by the side of the road - we didn't tell you to do that though! Just make sure you're wearing a skirt (it's easier to get down to business in) and it's much more discreet.
If you haven't got a car - take a taxi. Your boyfriend can take a taxi, "spot" you on the way and ask the cab driver to stop! Pretend you're old acquaintances that haven't seen each other in a while... you can't go all the way but you can get things started.
Why's it so hot?
In scenario 1, it's the instantaneous sex; the promiscuity and the fact of being in a tight, enclosed space that immediately makes it feel hot. You could either play the role of the innocent hitchhiker whom the driver takes a liking for, or the horny hitchhiker who can't keep her hands off the driver!
In scenario 2, acting like you've only just met up again in front of a stranger can add authenticity to your pretend affair. Snogging in the back seat will give you all the build up you need to get seriously sexy when you get home.
The luxury call girl and the client
You're so sexy and such an expert in what you do that your man is willing to pay a lot to screw you! For you, anything is permitted: provocative clothing, daring techniques, dirty talk… but no kissing. Why not arrange to find him, alone, sat at the bar of a classy hotel? Act out the scenario then return home to seal the deal!
Why's it so hot?
You're the call girl who knows how to please, seduce, keep a man begging... and make him pay up! Not being able to kiss you will drive your lover mad with desire.
Sleeping Beauty
You're in a very deep sleep and only the very skilled Prince Charming can wake you up from it. And this time, there's no guarantee that a simple kiss will do the trick... at least not just a kiss on the mouth. It's a practical role playing game because Beauty is lying down on a bed, which is perfect for the events that follow. And it's even more of a turn-on if she takes her time to react to her prince's kisses and caresses.
Why's it so hot?
It's about sensuality and the man being able to stir up his partner's desire. This theme is as old as the hills: the day that the prince arrives, her body is finally awakened.
The stripper
... or the Chippendale! Lightly dressed, you dance for and flirt with your lover but he doesn't have the right to touch you. While he sits on his hands, you strike some lustful poses and dance and slowly strip; you know exactly how to turn him on.
Why's it so hot?
It's exhibitionism and voyeurism in one. It's healthy and natural. Everyone likes looking at their partner's body or feeling looked at and desired. The sense of sight is one of the senses that count the most when it comes to desire and pleasure, especially for men!
All tied up
Although in reality it's wrong, in fantasies and role play, its significance is completely different. In the real world, restraining someone is assault or rape, even. In role play, in contrast, it signifies: "you're so desirable that I can't resist you. You have such power over me that I want you at all costs". And for a woman, it can be very liberating. She might allow herself do things she would never normally have dared, because she's obliged to.
But the role playing must always remain a game and both partners must be fully consenting about the scenario. Otherwise, it could become very unpleasant. Have a safe word to say if things get out of hand or go too far for you. It shouldn't be 'NO' or 'STOP' because you'll need those words for a realistic role play - something like 'BANANA' or 'BINGO' should kill the mood, like an emergency stop button.
Why's it so hot?
Sex when restrained in some way can be a real eye-opener to things you hadn't even thought about or dared to suggest yourself. And if you're the one doing the tying up, you can really get to know your partner's body and see just how badly he wants you. You'll get to tease him until he's about to explode!
Joker card
All of the previous ideas are just suggestions so you can, of course, come up with your own scenarios too. Let your fantasies run free: "I'm the wolf and you're Little Red Riding Hood", "I'm the master and you're my slave", "let's play doctors and nurses"... anything goes! Use props and don't be afraid to improvise - no silk scarf? Tie him up with your stockings! Change your appearance too - the key to good role play is really getting into character.
Note
The rougher a game is, the greater the understanding needs to be between the two partners. A certain amount of playful aggressiveness can be a turn-on if you totally trust the other person. Always have a safe word agreed so you can stop the game if you feel uncomfortable.
This works equally well with the plumber, electrician, etc. You choose! Your partner, a jack of all trades, rings the bell. You greet this manly figure in your new satin nightdress and let him in. You flirt a bit while he rummages through his toolbox. Ideally, draw this part out for a while. Then, when your repairman actually starts to 'repair' something, you lean over him, brushing past him with the narrowest of margins... an essential step for increasing levels of arousal.
Why's it so hot?
The surprise, unexpected encounter. It's an "I like you, you like me, let's get on with it" kind of situation. Often, this experience turns out to be much more exciting in role playing situations than in real life!
The hitch hiker
You could try this out for real if you have a car and know of a calm, isolated place where your partner can pull over by the side of the road - we didn't tell you to do that though! Just make sure you're wearing a skirt (it's easier to get down to business in) and it's much more discreet.
If you haven't got a car - take a taxi. Your boyfriend can take a taxi, "spot" you on the way and ask the cab driver to stop! Pretend you're old acquaintances that haven't seen each other in a while... you can't go all the way but you can get things started.
Why's it so hot?
In scenario 1, it's the instantaneous sex; the promiscuity and the fact of being in a tight, enclosed space that immediately makes it feel hot. You could either play the role of the innocent hitchhiker whom the driver takes a liking for, or the horny hitchhiker who can't keep her hands off the driver!
In scenario 2, acting like you've only just met up again in front of a stranger can add authenticity to your pretend affair. Snogging in the back seat will give you all the build up you need to get seriously sexy when you get home.
The luxury call girl and the client
You're so sexy and such an expert in what you do that your man is willing to pay a lot to screw you! For you, anything is permitted: provocative clothing, daring techniques, dirty talk… but no kissing. Why not arrange to find him, alone, sat at the bar of a classy hotel? Act out the scenario then return home to seal the deal!
Why's it so hot?
You're the call girl who knows how to please, seduce, keep a man begging... and make him pay up! Not being able to kiss you will drive your lover mad with desire.
Sleeping Beauty
You're in a very deep sleep and only the very skilled Prince Charming can wake you up from it. And this time, there's no guarantee that a simple kiss will do the trick... at least not just a kiss on the mouth. It's a practical role playing game because Beauty is lying down on a bed, which is perfect for the events that follow. And it's even more of a turn-on if she takes her time to react to her prince's kisses and caresses.
Why's it so hot?
It's about sensuality and the man being able to stir up his partner's desire. This theme is as old as the hills: the day that the prince arrives, her body is finally awakened.
The stripper
... or the Chippendale! Lightly dressed, you dance for and flirt with your lover but he doesn't have the right to touch you. While he sits on his hands, you strike some lustful poses and dance and slowly strip; you know exactly how to turn him on.
Why's it so hot?
It's exhibitionism and voyeurism in one. It's healthy and natural. Everyone likes looking at their partner's body or feeling looked at and desired. The sense of sight is one of the senses that count the most when it comes to desire and pleasure, especially for men!
All tied up
Although in reality it's wrong, in fantasies and role play, its significance is completely different. In the real world, restraining someone is assault or rape, even. In role play, in contrast, it signifies: "you're so desirable that I can't resist you. You have such power over me that I want you at all costs". And for a woman, it can be very liberating. She might allow herself do things she would never normally have dared, because she's obliged to.
But the role playing must always remain a game and both partners must be fully consenting about the scenario. Otherwise, it could become very unpleasant. Have a safe word to say if things get out of hand or go too far for you. It shouldn't be 'NO' or 'STOP' because you'll need those words for a realistic role play - something like 'BANANA' or 'BINGO' should kill the mood, like an emergency stop button.
Why's it so hot?
Sex when restrained in some way can be a real eye-opener to things you hadn't even thought about or dared to suggest yourself. And if you're the one doing the tying up, you can really get to know your partner's body and see just how badly he wants you. You'll get to tease him until he's about to explode!
Joker card
All of the previous ideas are just suggestions so you can, of course, come up with your own scenarios too. Let your fantasies run free: "I'm the wolf and you're Little Red Riding Hood", "I'm the master and you're my slave", "let's play doctors and nurses"... anything goes! Use props and don't be afraid to improvise - no silk scarf? Tie him up with your stockings! Change your appearance too - the key to good role play is really getting into character.
Note
The rougher a game is, the greater the understanding needs to be between the two partners. A certain amount of playful aggressiveness can be a turn-on if you totally trust the other person. Always have a safe word agreed so you can stop the game if you feel uncomfortable.
10 erotic role playing tips
10 erotic role playing ideas |
1 - Prepare your scenario
To indulge in a role playing game, you might decide to plan the scenario down to the finest details. By knowing your role, you may feel surer of yourself. You might even want to prepare some dialogue in advance.
2 - Improvise
Some people prefer to make up a whole storyline but with a bit of practise, you'll feel freer and more comfortable straying from what you had initially planned.
3 - Discuss things beforehand
Talk with your partner about the things you're not keen on. It's just a game; you should never feel manipulated or forced into doing something you're not comfortable with.
4 - Find a compromise
Which game should you choose? One that appeals to both of you. That won't necessarily be easy since people don't all have the same erotic imagination. Ideally, try to find a game that turns you both on.
5 - Pay attention to your partner's desires
The things your partner fantasises or dreams about could be the smallest of details that aren't important for you but are essential for him.
6 - Don't put pressure on yourself
Never think that you have to be at the top of your game sexually. The aim is to have some fun together.
7 - Don't spread yourself too thinly
You don't have to try out all the games. If you find one that you both really like, you can repeat it again and again with all sorts of variations.
8 - Consider using accessories and props
Go all out with your role playing and wear relevant items of clothing, go to specific places, put up appropriate decorations, etc. But you could also keep things simple and role play at home in your usual clothes. What counts is stimulating your imagination. To do that, accessories can be useful but not essential!
9 - Agree on your sexy talk
You want to hear him tell you he's going to tear off your shirt and instead he says he's going to rip open your blouse... blouse?! Nothing ruins a mood like an unsexy sentence. Agree on banned, unsexy words in advance. If you hate the sound of "gentle, tender kisses" and you'd rather be "gorged on and ravished" then now is the time to say so.
10 - Have a safe word
No matter what game you're playing, you always need to have an agreed safe word. Like an emergency stop button this will bring the game to an abrupt halt whenever you need. Make sure it's a word you wouldn't commonly use. 'BAKED BEANS', 'BINGO', or 'MARGARET THATCHER' - anything that kills the mood is perfect.
To indulge in a role playing game, you might decide to plan the scenario down to the finest details. By knowing your role, you may feel surer of yourself. You might even want to prepare some dialogue in advance.
2 - Improvise
Some people prefer to make up a whole storyline but with a bit of practise, you'll feel freer and more comfortable straying from what you had initially planned.
3 - Discuss things beforehand
Talk with your partner about the things you're not keen on. It's just a game; you should never feel manipulated or forced into doing something you're not comfortable with.
4 - Find a compromise
Which game should you choose? One that appeals to both of you. That won't necessarily be easy since people don't all have the same erotic imagination. Ideally, try to find a game that turns you both on.
5 - Pay attention to your partner's desires
The things your partner fantasises or dreams about could be the smallest of details that aren't important for you but are essential for him.
6 - Don't put pressure on yourself
Never think that you have to be at the top of your game sexually. The aim is to have some fun together.
7 - Don't spread yourself too thinly
You don't have to try out all the games. If you find one that you both really like, you can repeat it again and again with all sorts of variations.
8 - Consider using accessories and props
Go all out with your role playing and wear relevant items of clothing, go to specific places, put up appropriate decorations, etc. But you could also keep things simple and role play at home in your usual clothes. What counts is stimulating your imagination. To do that, accessories can be useful but not essential!
9 - Agree on your sexy talk
You want to hear him tell you he's going to tear off your shirt and instead he says he's going to rip open your blouse... blouse?! Nothing ruins a mood like an unsexy sentence. Agree on banned, unsexy words in advance. If you hate the sound of "gentle, tender kisses" and you'd rather be "gorged on and ravished" then now is the time to say so.
10 - Have a safe word
No matter what game you're playing, you always need to have an agreed safe word. Like an emergency stop button this will bring the game to an abrupt halt whenever you need. Make sure it's a word you wouldn't commonly use. 'BAKED BEANS', 'BINGO', or 'MARGARET THATCHER' - anything that kills the mood is perfect.
Just For Fun! You Must Try This!!
This is one of the best and most fun things you can do with and for your husband / boyfriend.
Just for fun! Write a long detailed Craigslist ad!
You want to take your time here, be detailed and describe yourself, Personality type, Body type, Height, Weight, Boob size, Age, What you like sexually, What you do nont like sexually. Do you like giving head? Whats your fav sex position? I'm sure you get the idea by now.
Next what you are looking for, The trick here is to pretend you are single while writing this part, What kind of guy are you looking for, This is the part that will turn your husband on the most!! You must and I mean MUST include cock size here! He wants to see/hear you say it without him telling you! TRUST ME! (You always want a big fat uncut cock) Describe what you want this guy to do to you while your husband has to watch (Details), Now describe what you want to do to him while your husband watches (Details). Be Nasty! Just describe the kind of guy you would want in this! Hot, Sexy, hot body, haiy or hairless, cut or uncut cock, cock size (Remember what I said about this one) what age do you want him to be, Black, white, latan or other? The more detailed you get here the better it will be for him. He wants to hear all this, He loves details. The details alone cane make him cum! Make sure you tell them to send you nudes in the replies.
Now take a few new sexy pix, Crop your face out! and post away!
The fun part is reading all the messages and seeing the sent pix together!
Just for fun! Write a long detailed Craigslist ad!
You want to take your time here, be detailed and describe yourself, Personality type, Body type, Height, Weight, Boob size, Age, What you like sexually, What you do nont like sexually. Do you like giving head? Whats your fav sex position? I'm sure you get the idea by now.
Next what you are looking for, The trick here is to pretend you are single while writing this part, What kind of guy are you looking for, This is the part that will turn your husband on the most!! You must and I mean MUST include cock size here! He wants to see/hear you say it without him telling you! TRUST ME! (You always want a big fat uncut cock) Describe what you want this guy to do to you while your husband has to watch (Details), Now describe what you want to do to him while your husband watches (Details). Be Nasty! Just describe the kind of guy you would want in this! Hot, Sexy, hot body, haiy or hairless, cut or uncut cock, cock size (Remember what I said about this one) what age do you want him to be, Black, white, latan or other? The more detailed you get here the better it will be for him. He wants to hear all this, He loves details. The details alone cane make him cum! Make sure you tell them to send you nudes in the replies.
Now take a few new sexy pix, Crop your face out! and post away!
The fun part is reading all the messages and seeing the sent pix together!
Roleply- The Perfect Things a Wife Can Say or Do to you in Bed Pretending you are a Stranger!
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Saturday, January 12, 2013
Wife Sharing Part I, Introduction
Part I
Introduction
Audience:
| The guide is intended for
perfectly normal women and men involved in a loving
relationship . Couples interested in this lifestyle
are in most cases married, but some are unmarried and
involved in a serious long-term relationship. In
this fantasy, the woman is encouraged to engage in sexual
play with another partner. These adventures may be
limited to cyber-flirtation or exhibitionism, or much
more. This guide is
primarily written for beginners, mature in their views of
sexuality, who are considering this next step. It
also includes alternatives for those couples who don't
feel comfortable making the fantasy a reality at this
time.
You'll see that a
sensible GO SLOW approach is suggested. Why?
Because it allows the couple to maintain a sense of
control as they explore their own deepest desires and
those of their partners. In addition, it provides
the opportunity to stop at any time if either partner
feels uncomfortable.
Before we begin...
An important clarification must
be made. This is not swinging. It is not
"open marriage" which is simply another word
for swinging. The author neither condones or
supports the swinging lifestyle. Bringing the MFM
or shared wife fantasies to life does not lead to
swinging - at least not for me or anyone that has a
sincere interest in this fantasy. Please look
elsewhere if that is your interest. |
| One of the most common questions on relationship bulletin boards or chat rooms that pertain to shared wife discussions is "Should we make this fantasy a reality?" or "How do we proceed?" or "How can I talk with my partner about my fantasy?". Many of these questions have no simple answer. Quite a number of the responses provided by fellow members in a discussion site such as The Hot Wife Forum , the Our Wives Forum are lacking in details, are simple come-ons or too risky for many. My goal is to present a common sense, approach with a few of do's and don'ts that will work for everyday couples. |
| The terms "Hot Wife" and "Shared Wife" have similar meanings in the context of sexual relationships. Male-Female-Male (MFM) relationships is also used. The "hot" designation is by far the most popular. A few women that I have great respect for, object to the term "Hot Wife" for a couple of reasons. First, they may not be married and second, they don't perceive themselves to be any more "hot" than other women and prefer the alternate terms instead. For these reasons I will refrain from using the "hot" designation. |
It is important to first
explore what it is before we discuss how to arrange
it. ;-) First a succinct definition:
MFM sexual experimentation may take several forms from rather benign flirtation to exhibitionism. These moderately erotic sexual activities are discussed in a later chapter. The bulk of this guide refers to a relationship that eventually leads to physical sex.A trusting relationship where a couple supports and encourages the women's sexual experimentation with another male partner, but maintains a strong emotional bond with one another. It is often said that this fantasy taps into the way men and women are wired. What is the driving force behind this desire for the man? For the women? Is It normal? Read on. |
| Changing gender roles in
society make available more opportunities than ever
before for women to pursue sexual relationships that
transcend traditional boundaries. Women can
now freely challenge repressive norms which have limited
their options in the past to have more partners, while
practically rewarding men to do the same. What's
more, they will find support and even encouragement from
their mates in the context of marriage or a serious
long-term relationship. To
consider an MFM experience, whether is it serious
flirtation or much more, provides a new dimension in
sexuality. For mature couples, it can be both positive
and mutually satisfying, with a little planning and
forethought. The feeling of sexual power and
confidence, by enticing two males into bed can be a huge
turn on. As a rule, women are capable of outlasting
any one man, and with a second partner she may be able to
reach a previously unobtainable sexual high. The
result is more often than not "memorable sex"
that you both think fondly of and recall from time to
time. Of course, any major change in our sex lives can be cause for concern. It is with a certain amount of fear that most women begin their sex life or try a sex toy with their partner for the first time. But with each chance taken, new pleasures are often realized. All couples have initial feelings of intrepedation with MFM encounters, but those anxious moments fade away and are replaced by sexual joy. SUGGESTED LITERATURE For more information on women's sexuality, I would suggest any of the following:
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MEN'S
MOTIVATION
The desire for a man to see
his partner sexually experimenting with another is an
"awakening" for him as his sexuality
matures. This common fantasy comes about,
perhaps unexpectedly, for many men and women as they
age. Young men in their teens and early
twenties do not typically have this desire. It
seems to develop after a decade or two of sexual
experience and can be a source of unbridled
eroticism. There are a variety of reasons men may encourage their wives to sexually engage other men. If you're looking for a simple explanation, I have none to offer but I might suggest you read "Brain Sex, (Moir & Jessel, 1993)" or Sex on the Brain : The Biological Differences Between Men and Women (Blum, 1998) which contains bits and pieces of what makes men and women tick. There have been recent television specials on the Discovery channel such as "Brain Sex" that offer additional clues.
His desire to encourage his partner to explore sex with another man is driven by many complex and intertwined reasons that even he may have difficulty verbalizing. The more common themes are explored here:
- Unconditional love
- Reliving past sex
- New sex
- Pure lust sex
- Competition with other males
- Cum fantasy
- Sexual Control
- Husband humiliation
- Wife humiliation
Unconditional Love: In a trusting and loving relationship the man encourages her to have a pleasurable erotic sexual experience with another partner. He knows she will enjoy it immensely if she has his support. He may feel that she was cheated out of sexual experimentation that he engaged in as a young man prior to the current relationship. Essentially, it is an act of love, where he gives her something very special.
Reliving past sex: Most couples at some point explore her past sexual relationships through fantasy. She finds that her sexual history is a powerful source of eroticism for him. Many men discover their own desire for a shared wife experience in this manner.
New Sex: Sex with a new partner is often very highly charged and perhaps biological in nature. For nearly all couples, it is fondly remembered. Bringing another man into your relationship can result in a similar level of intensity that you experienced when you first shared one another - maybe greater. :-) A woman who has been in a long term monogamous relationship will often behave as if she has been starved for sex when a new partner begins to engage in adult play with her. For a man, most of whom are very visual, the site of another male playing with his partner may cause uncontrollable arousal. The many "shared wife with another man" pictures posted on the web and related stories are strong evidence of this common and perfectly normal fantasy. Check out the Toy Box (couples section) or the many forums on this topic on Yahoo or Excite.
Pure lust sex: The sex a couple has over the years can be wild and passionate, but it is not exactly the same as the kind of sex she would have with someone she is not emotionally involved with. Pure lust sex has a different dimension. He wants to see that "desire for a stud" look in her eyes, driven by female hormones and animal instinct.
Competition: Male competition allows him to measure his ability to stimulate his mate against another male. A darker side of this fantasy is impregnation competition. Men are evolutionary designed for this as a penis is shaped to pull out the semen of another and replace it with his own. I do not promote or condone impregnation. Another area of competition is penis size. More on that later.
Cum fantasy: As part of nearly all pair bonding relationships in the mammal world, males want sole access to their mate's sexual zones, and specifically for the deposition of semen. This is a sacred right for any couple. Placing Sexually Transmitted Diseases aside for a moment, the idea of another male given this same access and opportunity may be very erotic for him. The sight, smell or feel of another man's cum in her mouth or vagina is taboo and also an erotic fantasy.
Husband humiliation: This one I can not relate to personally. It seems that some men want their partner to exhibit control over them, choosing to deny them sexual satisfaction by finding another sexual source. This is known as cuckolding and not explored in this guide.
Wife humiliation: Another one I don't relate to personally. Some men like the feeling of power they have ordering their partner to submit to sex with another man.
I'm sure
there are other motivations, but the group listed
here represent the mainstream reasons men suggest to
their partners to engage in sex with another
man. If the male readers can relate to any or
all of the above, you are perfectly normal as
millions of other guys have these same fantasies.
WOMEN'S
MOTIVATIONSome women have a reoccurring MFM
fantasy. Others have not given it much
thought until asked about it. Perhaps you have
been directed here by your mate to learn more?
Woman reading this who have
not explored the topic of sexual play another man
should try bringing the subject up some time when
your partner is aroused. You may be pleasantly
surprised by the result. :-) For those of
you trying to understand why he wants to pursue this
and what it would be like, I hope this will help you
make an informed decision. In the right circumstances, I've asked women what motivated them to seek sex outside of their relationship and this is what they've shared:
- "New sex" pleasures
- Pleasing her partner
- Guilt free lustful sex
- Sex with a more desirable partner
- Being ravished
- Need to validate her desirability
- Fulfilling missed sexual experiences
- Unconditional belonging
- Enjoying sex similar to that before being married
- Being with more than one man at a time
"New sex" pleasures: For men and women, sex with a new partner is in most cases very erotic. It is likely she will have one of the most memorable sexual experiences in her life. Pleasing her partner: Through the exploration of relationships with her previous lovers, she learns of his desire for her to engage in sexual play with a new partner. She finds he is seriously turned on by the thought of this fantasy and finds his lustfulness associated with this topic equally arousing. He wants to bring this fantasy to life more than anything and by granting his wish, she gives him something very special.
Guilt free lustful sex: Sex without the emotional baggage of a relationship can feel more heightened for her. It can be a liberating experience for those women who have not yet tried it. In an MFM adult play situation, she can concentrate totally on her pleasure, her desire and her needs.
Sex with a more desirable partner: No one man can satisfy a woman's erotic desires in every way. In an MFM experience, she has the opportunity to select a mate that is different than her current lover. He could be younger or maybe leaner or maybe from another part of the world. If she has always had the hots for a guy with lots of muscles, this is her opportunity.
Being ravished: The thought of a man she hardly knows seeing her naked, aroused and unable to resist his advances is a female fantasy. Her new partner is full of desire for her and is allowed to touch her everywhere and "take" her.
Need to validate her desirability: Some women need to know they are attractive and viewed as sensual. No experience will validate her desirability more than attracting another partner for sexual play. It can be a ego boost for her, especially if she has been having doubts about her ability to attract others. Ask any 50 year old women if she feels more attractive after a shared wife experience with a younger stud and you'll get an affirmative response.
Fulfilling missed sexual experiences: She's lived an overly conservative life and now realizes she has missed out on the opportunity to sample sex with other men. Now is her chance to experience a variety of partners.
Unconditional belonging: A deep sense of bonding where she feels owned by her partner. This occurs when the husband/boyfriend, after making sure she is completely ready, invites another man to have her. She is "his woman" and is given away. Some couples experience a very strong emotional attachment as they look at one another while a new partner is intimately engaged with her.
Enjoying sex similar to that before being married: Perhaps she longs again for that freedom she had to sleep with whomever she wished. (editorial note: Most men can relate with this).
Being with more than one man at a time: It is not just guys who have the fantasy of being with two members of the opposite sex at once. Some women find it arousing.
Wife Sharing Part II, Are We Ready?
Part II
Are We Ready?
Are we ready
to turn fantasy into reality?
There are several prerequisites
that should be met before you both consider turning this
fantasy into a reality which relate to your background,
mindset and age.
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- Less sexually advanced:
- Have her dress up in a sexy outfit such as tight jeans and blouse, then go to a secluded location such as a park. Unbutton a few buttons on her blouse or jeans and take photographs of her in sexy poses.
- Give your wife a gift certificate for a body massage and prearrange to have a man deliver the massage.
- Read one of the books in the Women Readers section.
- Role play. Have her come into a bar and flirt with you, pick you up and take you home.
- Have sex in risky places where there is a chance someone might see you.
- Buy her a revealing dress. Go somewhere you won't be known and dance the night away in front of others.
- Have her dress provocatively, then go to a public place. Watch other men watch her.
More advanced:
- If you're apart (e.g. business travel), call her when you've been away for several days and encourage her to act as if your fantasy has come true over the phone.
- Place an ad in "Your Wife's Lovers" on the Dark Wanderer and encourage a man to have a cyber-sex relationship with your wife.
- Post a sexy picture of her, where her identity is not revealed on the net, then ask for comments and read them together.
- Have a male masseuse come to the house and give your wife a body massage as a surprise.
- Have her dress provocatively, then go out and expose her breasts or sexy behind to someone she knows or a stranger.
- Take her dancing, sit apart and encourage her to dance with another man.
- Have an on-line ICQ relationship or visit a chat room.
The best time to talk seriously about this fantasy is while flirting, but not in the throes of passion. As with most sensitive topics, timing is everything. :-) I urge you to take the open and honest approach about your sexual needs. Explain that your fantasy has developed over time, as you've thought about you're own sexuality. If you're like nearly every man I've responded to on this topic, the idea of exploring a MFM relationship does not in any way lessen your love for your partner. She needs to hear this message in particular.
Most women will jump to conclusions and believe that their partner actually desires a swinging relationship. They may view a shared-wife experience as a means to that end. It will be necessary to reassure her otherwise, perhaps frequently.
Don't discuss the details about how and when - that's for later. First share the reasons you want it to happen (see part 1). Explore how you think you will feel afterwards. I would suggest a "go slow" approach. This is your chance to grow and explore your sexuality together over time and strengthen your relationship. If done right, it will be a wonderful experience and you'll remain happy, sexually fulfilled and very much in love.
Wife Sharing Part III. Finding the right partner
Part III
Finding the right partner
Finding the right partner
When a couple selects a man to be included in your
sex life, he might not be the right partner. There
could be a variety of reasons, but the more he knows
about either of you, the more difficult it will be to
keep him out of your life. If he does not have a
way to contact you besides e-mail, it is much easier to
say you're not interested and move on. For this
reason, I don't particularly recommend:
Ex-boyfriends: She knows the guy and she's already had sex with him, so what could be wrong? Plenty. Women have a natural tendency to become attached to whoever they are having sex with. If he was more than a one night stand, she was at one time emotionally involved. Sex with him will bring back those emotional feelings for both her and the boyfriend. This is uncool, so why risk it? Men, just like women, become emotionally attached to a sex partner under the right conditions. From time to time, her new partner will try to convince her to resume a permanent relationship, even when there's no chance she would consider it. It ruins the event for everyone. Friends that live in your area: I don't discourage this in all cases, but it would not be my first choice. If they are occasional visitors to your area (or if you visit them), that's more acceptable but proceed with caution. After she has sex with him, the friendship can change and can actually dissolve and become awkward. I made this mistake and regret it. Good friends are hard to come by. It is better to meet someone for the expressed purpose to have sex than it is to risk a old friendship. Friends also know where you live, work, play and may talk with other friends of yours. It is OK to become friends with her new partner to some degree, but don't expect it to have the dynamics of a typical friendship. A guy she knows from the gym or work: It is easier for her, because she has already sized him up and he's considered acceptable. The down side it that he probably knows where he can find her. Also, he's local. Local people know others in your area and then you risk the possibility that your shared wife experiences are commonly known. |
| When you surprise someone on the topic of sex, you
never know how they will react. Here are a couple
of situations couples may want to avoid. Propositioning
a friend: Imagine you're planning to ask a
friend to participate in a three-way. How do you
know he will agree? If he says no, everyone will feel
very stupid and the friendship will likely suffer.
Maybe he will not agree to have sex with the husband
present because it is just too embarrassing (there are
lots of guys like this). Again, it will create
problems. Maybe he is impotent. Get the
picture? My advice is that you should be prepared
for most any reaction if you're planning to ask a pal for
three-way sex. Propositioning someone you just met: What if you are planning to ask someone you just met, say at a nightclub or while on vacation? She has danced and flirted with this young hunk for two hours. Perhaps they have kissed and both of them are very horny. Then she propositions him for a three-way. The guy suddenly is quite unhappy. He is not interested in a threesome, especially with another guy present! He wants her to himself. Sadly, this does happen. Your alternative is to proposition through an advertisement. This way, everyone knows up front the nature of the relationship. |
| How do you find him? There are a few options,
let's explore the advertisement method first.
Essentially, couples can use the internet and take out an
ad. Place the ad in the The Hot Wife
Forum , the Our
Wives Forum, Yahoo's Adult
Personnel's, the Do
My Wife Mailing List or somewhere similar.
Before you do, I urge you to take sensible
precautions. Don't give out a phone number,
address, place of work, identifiable picture or any other
personal information. Do include your area code
otherwise expect more mail than you can handle. Be
prepared for an onslaught of email (20-50 messages per
day at least). I suggest an ad that looks similar
to the following:
Example Ad
When you find one you like, I suggest you respond with a picture of her that does not reveal her identity and ask for additional information. Let him know that unless you send him e-mail, he is not to send you any. This can be a fun experience for a couple going through the candidates together. When you think you've found the right man, and you believe he is for real, I might suggest you participate in a suggestive cyber-chat or cyber-sex relationship for a while. Get to know him, his likes and dislikes and share similar information with him. This acclimation time make's it much easier for both of you if you decide to meet. |
| Some couples don't want to use a personals ad. In this case, there are several other options. You can both go to a night club and she can try to pick someone up. Another option is to go on vacation and find someone there. I've heard of couples that take a Caribbean vacation just for this purpose. |
| Readers of MFM erotica found on the web have no doubt
noticed the interest, especially by males, centered
around the penis size of the studs selected to please
their women. The stories seem to take on mythical
proportions. So... do you search for a well hung
stud? The answer maybe yes and maybe no depending
on your situation, although a "minimum" size
criteria is a good idea. Most men desire to have a 10
inch penis as thick as your arm. But, if you ever
have an honest conversation with a well hung guy, you
might find he's not perfectly happy about it.
Why? Because he's too long for full penetration
with many partners. Vagina size varies
significantly and while some are very deep, others are
not. Some women experience pain, not unlike a cramp
if a penis or dildo makes forceful contact with the back
of the vagina near the cervical entrance. If the
man cannot grind his pelvic bone against her clitoris, it
may be very difficult for her to really enjoy the sex and
have orgasms. Contrary to what you might read, the vagina does not readily stretch in length like a uterus does to accommodate pregnancy. It can adjust to accommodate greater thickness, not length. Thick is generally good. Erotic stories indicate that a women accustomed to the small penis of her husband will over the course of a few minutes be able to accept another man's tool that's several inches longer. In my experience, this does not appear to be true. I'm 6.5 inches and have encountered several women that would prefer that I was a half inch shorter because I would occasionally "bottom out" in certain positions. They never seemed to adjust. I've also had girlfriends that could accept a 9" dildo so vaginal depth varies. Here's something else to think about. A few years back, I encouraged my then girlfriend to have a sexual experience with another man. We found a guy. She blew him in his car about two weeks before she actually had sexual intercourse with him and found that he had a 4.5 in penis - one of the smallest she had ever seen. I was disappointed, hoping for at least six. A couple of weeks later, she had one of the most intense sexual experiences with this guy that left her breathless. She had so many orgasms, she lost count and her pussy was sore for a day afterwards. It is like the old saying, "It is not the wand, it is the magician." Another common complaint I hear from women is that well hung guy's don't try to please them in bed. They assume their size means they don't have to work too hard and it is over too soon. If you want a guy who'll please a woman, look for:
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Wife Sharing Part IV. The First Meeting
PART IV
The First Meeting
The First Meeting
| This meeting is necessary to see of there is
chemistry and to verify that he looks attractive to her
in person. Pictures can be deceiving. Some
couples skip this step or go straight from this meeting
to a motel but I think that's asking too much of a
woman. She needs to warm to him and this meeting is
an icebreaker that helps her with this process.
Take your time. Send him email and arrange to meet him
in a public place where you can talk. Tell him this
will only last an hour and you have an engagement later
(you can always decide to break the engagement if you
want to chat longer). Explain up front that this
meeting will not include sex. I would suggest a
place that serves alcohol and has some privacy (e.g.
background music or a sparsely occupied seating
area). Get there early and have a drink if you're
nervous. Have him set where there is plenty
of eye contact between her and the prospective new
partner. Let nature take it is course. If
there's chemistry great. If there's not, don't be
discouraged and plan to start over. If the meeting is going well, there should be flirtation and some level of sexual tension in the air. If it looks promising, it is a good idea to let the woman and her perspective partner have a few minutes alone to talk. Make an excuse to get drinks, go to the bathroom, etc. Later, the couple should ask for a few minutes alone to chat before extending a future invitation for more that just conversation. If you're both in agreement that this guy will be right for you, then it is time to make future arrangements and set some ground rules. I would suggest you arrange for a hotel meeting several days later. This gives you both time to back out if you desire. Tell him you will send e-mail if there is a problem with this arranged date at least a day in advance of your next meeting. It is appropriate that you ask the man to pay for a room or at least share the cost (If I were the lucky guy, I would volunteer to arrange for the room) at a nice hotel. I would suggest a time not too late in the day as you may want to start the evening with a meal, dinner, dancing or whatever will help make this a night she will never forget. Most ground rules should have been previously discussed via e-mail earlier including the topic of aids testing. |
| Communication at this point between you and your partner is essential. She may have second thoughts after the first meeting for one reason or another. If so, just cancel the invitation. If you're still ready to proceed, I suggest you stop having sex at least a few days before the first meeting. Why? It is one thing to talk about having sex with a stranger and entirely another to actually go through with it. Yes, this will be very difficult, because sex will be on your minds every minute until the next meeting. :-) Being very aroused beforehand will almost certainly make it easier for her. The sex will be hotter and the orgasm's more plentiful, believe me. If you can't hold out a week, at least try for a couple of days and don't have sex just prior to the encounter. |
| I suggest a nice hotel with a lounge that you are comfortable with. If you live in a small town, you should plan on driving to a nearby city to remain discrete. Don't choose a sleazy motel, the lighting is poor and the place is not usually clean or very large. Plan to meet him in the lounge and start with small talk. |
Wife Sharing Part V. The Big Day
Part V
The Big Day
The Big Day
| On the day of the event, you may want to get some wine, beer or favorite drink. A stereo with CD's with selections that gets everyone in the mood is recommended and can mask noise heard though walls and doors in a hotel. ;-) Don't forget some water based lubricant and extra condoms. If she's planning on an evening with two men, it may be non stop marathon sex and staying lubricated for several hours is not easy. A camera or a video cam is a great idea if you want to capture the event. This way you can both relive the memories. |
| I think this is often overlooked and is the cause for
some problems with first time three-ways in
particular. Most men have never had sex with
another man present. This makes them feel
uneasy. It can cause temporary impotence.
Also, if you've laid down half a dozen pre-sex ground
rules - "don't do this and don't do
that", he may be spooked. So what can
you do? First time sex in a three-way is usually
awkward at first. This can me minimized if you take
things slowly and get to know one another with
e-mail. Get comfortable as a threesome before
removing your cloths with conversation. Chat over a
beer. Flirt with email. Slow dance.
Tease one another. This will pay off in the end. The relationship between the two men will probably be the most awkward. The husband/boyfriend should find a way to indicate with his woman's new partner when it is OK to proceed and when it is not. Having a friendly one-on-one conversation is recommended. Email communications work well for this. |
| You may want to start with light conversation and a cocktail in the hotel lobby. On a queue from her, you can all venture to the hotel room. Both men could start by giving her a body massage fully clothed. A foot massage is a great place to start and is an excellent icebreaker. Gradually, the husband/boyfriend can remove articles of clothing. Then let nature take its course. I don't believe you can proceed too slowly, but it's easy for miscommunication and awkward moments if you move too fast. As a rule, I think it is best when the woman sets the pace. |
| It is completely up to the couple what the
husband/boyfriend does. He can either join in, take
turns or passively watch and snap a few
pictures. And here's a tip: if you
decide to photograph, use a flash as hotel lighting does
not make for good photos. :-) Assuming you
develop a relationship over time with her new partner and
you both trust him, I would suggest the husband/boyfriend
leave the room for 20 minutes. She and her new sex
partner may be reluctant to show their wild side for
different reasons. He may feel uncomfortable with
the other man in the room. She may feel guilty
exhibiting too much pleasure. While alone, they may
reach a new level of passion. When you return, they
may be more willing to continue in this manner. Another twist it to stop after a period of time and ask the new lover to leave for a period of say an hour. Then have him phone the room and come back later. It gives you both some time to talk and be passionate in private. When he returns, she can resume with him where she left off knowing her husband/boyfriend is both excited and supportive. |
The couple should have a non-verbal queue, that they can use in the hotel room indicating they want a time out or the whole thing to end.
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